Happy new year and all of that.
Usually, I look back at
the past year's resolutions to determine how I fared. But after a quick glance, it was clear I had fared poorly. I give myself a D-.
So, moving forward.... Here we go, a brand-new list:
1) Cook more.
My mom wasn't a great cook. She made a few dishes extremely well, and others not so much. So instead of using the excuse that "I'm not a great cook," I plan to pick a few dishes and learn to make them really well. Simple stuff, like meatloaf. Meatballs. Salsa. Baked chicken. Mashed potatoes. [
Anne, do you have Mom's recipe for meatloaf or meatballs? I need it, please.]
2) Lose the weight (again).
I've been involved in a months-long spate of comfort eating. (See above post re: meat foods.) So I've got 15 extras hanging about the tummyhipsassthighs area. That all needs to go, so I'm getting back on the online Weight Watchers plan in a couple weeks. It's kind of fun and breaks everything down into simple math for you.
3) Cut back on mid-week drinking.
See above. That should help. There's no need to depend on a liquid to get me through life's ups and downs.
4) Continue reading Mom's diaries.
I finally cracked the first one, from 1982, open this past week. In 1982, I was 9 years old, about the same as Finn. Mom was 44, just a few years older than myself. It was heavy reading, though -- turns out my mother, whom I have missed every single day without fail since her death in 2001 -- was
human, in all senses of the word. I had forgotten that, and it is hard to be reminded of it.
5) Slow down at home.
My boys (ages 8 and 2) are at two very differently needy stages. But they both literally want to be on me, physically on me, the second I walk in the door -- they want to wrestle, snuggle, touch my face, pull my hair.... They fight over me. ("She
MY mama!" -- "NO SHE'S NOT, I WAS HERE
FIRST!") Some days I love it, some days, I am really, really annoyed by it. I am going to make an effort to enjoy it more, as it will shortly go away and I will be sad.
6) Read better books.
Along with the comfort food and perhaps too much drinking, I spent a year reading utter crap. I won't say that I didn't enjoy the hell out of those mass market paperbacks (
romance novels), because I did. I admire any writer who has published anything and some of it is fantastic writing packaged in a cheesy way. Having said that, it's time for me to read better stuff. So far, I've read
Bel Canto by Ann Patchett and
Sarah's Key by Tatiana de Rosnay. The first, I loved; the second just made me anxious and teary. Next up:
Winter's Tale by Mark Helprin or
The Keep by Jennifer Egan. All book suggestions are welcome.
7) Keep running.
This is a separate goal from #2 above. Sure, it should help with that, but I do it for different reasons. Apart from the healthy-heart cardio effects, it has an incredible, tangible effect on my mood. I am happier. I feel better able to handle problems. I am less down, more up. Again, these are not groundbreaking observations. But as I creep toward middle age, I am gaining a sparkling clarity of how my body and mind interact.
I'm going to leave it there. That seems like enough. To all my friends, family and people out there who come back to this place once in awhile to see what blahblahblah may have spilled out of my mind, I give thanks for you.
Here's to 2013.